Climbing any business ladder can be a long, tedious and emotional journey, yet more and more women are clamoring at the opportunity to reach the top rung. Increasingly more women are getting advanced degrees and pursuing their careers. Not only this, but they are staying single; sometimes voluntarily, sometimes involuntarily.
Many of these types of women do, ultimately, want a relationship, but are independent enough – financially and emotionally – to postpone it until the right man comes along. They hold high standards for their men, just as they hold high standards for themselves. Although these standards weed out most of the men they meet, they don’t seem to mind the wait for the right one to come strolling around. However, at times, it seems that the right one does not turn on their street too often, or ever! The occurrence of meeting the right one is so minuscule that beautiful, educated, successful women are beginning to believe that the more success and educated they become, the more potential dating prospects run the opposite direction. But is there really a correlation between the success women achieve and men feeling hesitant or too intimidated to date them? Why do well-educated, intelligent, independent and successful women find it so hard to find a man?
Men Are Jealous of Your Success
True, men do feel insecure when they meet a woman who has achieved equal or superior career success than them. The amount of jealousy ranges from the very shallow, brute man who only believes women should smile pretty, laugh at all his jokes and remind him that he is a big strong man, to the striving, more classy man who seeks exactly what you have. The traditional male role is to be the provider and protector. When a man loses these roles, he feels like he’s losing his pride. Many men feel like their identity is wrapped up in what they do and how much they earn. It is an external validation of their success, and a woman who is more successful than they are may threaten how they view themselves. However, it is not a deal breaker for dating. Of course jealousy of success exists, but there is also admiration. It is admiration that will make a real man feel more elated to be by your side and wish nothing more than to get to know you on a more personal level.
True, but then again, who isn’t!? It isn’t just potential suitors who are envious of your wealth. You’d be deceiving yourself to believe that close friends and even family members don’t also fall into this jealous category. Any level of success will bring out insecurities, but this does not stop most men from wanting to be in a relationship with you, especially in today’s society. With women gaining ground in their careers and salary increases rising for women, men are less intimidated by women who earn more than them. This is not to say that there aren’t men out there fuming over their female counterpart’s financial dominance. But for a good majority of men, women earning high wages are welcomed. It relieves the pressure of having to be the breadwinner, and also gives men the sense that you are able to take care of yourself – at least financially.
Men Are Afraid of You Because You Are Too Smart
False! This is one of the biggest fallacies that any woman can believe. It is not you being smart that bothers us. It is the un-removed opinions that come along with your brains. It is nice when you voice your opinion, but in a world when women are already always right, matters only become worse when you can inductively prove why you are right and we are, without doubt, wrong. Most men generally love, and actively seek, intelligent, educated women. It makes no sense to be in a relationship where the two of you cannot have an intelligent conversation once in a while on economics, world culture or politics. Men dig women who are smart, no questions asked!
It is easy to anecdote men as cheetahs and women as gazelles. When a cheetah hunts gazelles, it does not go after the fastest, most clever gazelle. It goes after the slow, easy to catch gazelle. Although it may seem like men are not looking for the crème de la crème women and may, in fact, be avoiding them, this is not true. The entire notion is misplaced. Is it true in some instances? Yes, of course. But should women buy into the lie that they are unable to find love because they are too terrific and wonderful? Absolutely not! If you are beautiful, educated, successful, and single, it can be accredited to many other factors. The fault doesn’t lie in men being intimidated, and the answer is not adjusting your standards.
Does your career position conflict with your relationship? This is an important point to think about. As a boss, we develop habits of being in charge. Do you bring this in-charge attitude to your personal relationships? Sometimes habits that you do 40 hours a week or more unknowingly follow you home, and although you know what you say you want from a man, it may not be what you project.
Do keep in mind that the more intelligent you become, the pool of eligible men shrinks significantly. The world is set up for the common, everyday man and woman. When you continue to educate yourself, you almost find yourself above the clouds with very few like minds. The more intelligent you become, the less compatible you may be with most, simply because most men and women are average. Since more women go to college than men, herein lies the root of a big compatibility issue. There aren’t enough educated (or even self-educated) eligible bachelors out there, and the ones who are available get snatched up pretty quickly. This is why you need to be skilled in How to Get the Man of Your Dreams. With limited opportunities, you want your strikes to be genuine and fatal.
To meet eligible, compatible men, it’s important to keep your options open and go beyond your normal comfort zone to find like minds. You have to be patient and make yourself available to be courted. It’s about finding someone who is compatible with you, not your career or money. It’s not an impossible challenge; someone is out there looking for you even right now.