There are two sides to every coin, so it should come to no surprise that for every gentleman roaming this earth, there also exists a rude, obnoxious brute. The chant “chivalry is dead,” is a fallacy, but when it’s heard through the streets, it becomes more difficult for men with class to distinguish themselves from undercover jerks. Women seem to be more responsive to bad boy types who have no reservations about being outright disrespectful and brutal. This sort of acceptance blurs the lines between how a woman should be treated, and the type of treatment that women will accept. Nevertheless, there are a few old fashioned gentlemen who are unyielding in their practices of treating a woman properly. Most of what gentlemen do goes unnoticed. Their gestures are so subtle that many times their kind actions go unappreciated. Still, a gentleman is a gentleman for life. Here are sweet 16 signs about a true gentleman’s behavior that an ordinary man refuses to do.
Today’s society has somehow buried basic politeness that all women should appreciate, such as always letting women go first. When gentlemen display such a simple, selfless gesture these men make women feel as though they are placed on a pedestal.
Making the Responsible Decision no Matter What the Situation
A man who has class will do the right thing no matter what he is facing. He will always make the right decisions no matter how mad he gets. He will always be fair, even if he cannot stand the ground you walk on.
A man of class and maturity will call to make sure you made it home safely and ask that you do the same. He will also call to let you know he has made it to his destination safely. He is thoughtful and considerate and would want you to worry about him as little as possible. In addition he will have excellent phone manners, and will not leave you on hold without coming back to the phone and apologizing or excusing himself.
Saying Thank You
It’s a small thing that is number one on my list. If the potential man of your dreams does not know how to say thank you, there is absolutely no way he will be able to please you in all facets of life. A basic courtesy not only shows refined social skills, it sets a peaceful, love nurturing tone in the conversation, and shows that your man really does appreciate all the great things in his life.
Dangerous World Out There
Gentlemen pay attention to the fact that the world is more threatening to women. This coaxes gentlemen to protect women by doing such actions as allowing women to walk on the interior side of sidewalks, or walking her to her door or car. By virtue of being in the company of a real gentleman, women can rest assured they are protected.
Handing Out Respect Like Candy
Gentlemen acknowledge that they should help out a woman in need every time! If a woman is carrying something, they offer to pick it up when she puts it down. Singing out phrases like, “Let me get that for you,” or “Do you need a hand?” comes second nature to these choir gents. This is a number one rule that all gentlemen follow. Being selfish is not being attractive.
This is another small but huge distinction between decent men and fantastic men with whom you can spend a life. If the potential man of your dreams does not open doors for people in public, or worse yet does not open doors for you or your friends or family, it shows he is only thinking about himself. A man who isn’t actively thinking of others can only satisfy himself and cannot possibly be the man of your dreams.
Bodily Functions – Belching, Farting and Worse
Being in a relationship where you can just be yourself and show all sides to your partner is a wonderful thing, but there are limits. A man who cannot control his flatulence or belching during intimate moments, time around friends and family, or other inappropriate situations, shows a lack of class to say the least. Luckily this is a negative trait that can be quickly remedied by a simple sit down with the potential man of your dreams to discuss how it makes you feel when he belches out the alphabet in front of your friends or family.
Taking Responsibility for his Actions
A man of class takes pride in his inner and outer appearance, and strives to be a person any woman would be proud to call her husband, and children would be proud to call dad. At the root of that drive is responsibility. Being responsible and upfront is a key quality of a gentleman. A man responsible for his actions would rather break up than cheat behind your back. A man of responsibility will do all he can do and work with you in order to provide a stable life. A man of responsibility most of all wants to make sure you are completely satisfied, and that you will take the responsibility of returning the favor.
Everyone has a point of no-return when it comes to getting angry and saying something regretted later. That does not mean that everyday life arguments turn into shouting matches about who can say the meanest thing. A man of class will be able to discuss differences and hear criticism without blowing up or resorting to hurtful words or defense mechanisms.
Please do keep in mind: it really takes great maturity and experience for a man to know how to properly handle an argument with the woman he loves, because she is so close to his emotions and heart. Love can make the best of us look like blabbering idiots. A gentleman may or may not have mastered this level 10 skill. Obviously if you are to harp on any man over one thing over and over and over again, be prepared for one unhappy fellow.
A man of class has taken the time to learn to chew with his mouth shut, elbows preferably off the table, and to use the utensils from the outside in. A man who chews with an open mouth, or makes out-of-the-ordinary chewing or savoring noises while eating, is a man without class. A man who comes to the dinner table with dirty hands is a man without class, a man who is not putting himself in his best light.
Interacting with Friends and Family
A man of class and maturity is not looking to screw around with your sisters or best friends. Nothing could be more disrespectful or irresponsible. A gentleman politely interacts with your parents and friends even if they are not acting in their best light. A man of class tries to help and tries to become a part of your inner circle of friends and family and does not avoid such situations.
A gentleman knows when it’s his turn to handle his fair share. Whether it’s in the bedroom, or the home, or sharing responsibilities he understands that a relationship is a two way street. A man with class will not try to make you do everything, and will listen when you need help. He’s there to give.
He Expects You to Give
What does this mean? Well, a man with class, while giving, will also expect you to give. He respects himself enough to know that you also need to pull your own weight in the relationship. A gentleman is not a doormat – and will not accept being treated like one.
He’ll Want You to Look Elegant
Many classless men will want to show off every portion of their girlfriend or wife’s body. But a man with class understands that encouraging the gawking of strangers is not the way to lead other men to respect you and him as well. Of course he will want you to look great – but he won’t be asking you to show your cleavage or wear the shortest skirt possible. But always be sexy! A man of class loves a woman who can toe the line without crossing it.
He’s Not Focusing All His Extra Time on Other Women
This is a big one. Ladies, it’s true. Our minds can wander to other women sometimes. But a classless man will let you know it – he’s either always talking about other women, or looking at them while you’re with him, or hanging pictures of other women on his walls. This is a big red flag that he’s classless. If he had class, he would respect you enough to not gawk at other women in your presence. In other words – you’re the most important woman in the room to a gentleman.
All of us are works in progress, so please don’t expect even the man of your dreams to have every single trait listed above. We all fall short in some area, whether male or female, but he should at least have 11 out of 16 signs listed above.
If you look for these sweet 16 signs, not only will you be dating a man of class, you’ll narrow down the potential men of your dreams that much further, increasing your positive chances for finding and keeping the man of your dreams and building a quality, lifelong relationship.
Please see our article, “When to Sleep with the Man You’re Dating.”