Should You Ever Call 911 on Your Man?

It’s one call that could have lifelong implications for the Man of Your Dreams.

If your life is truly in danger, to the point where you have been injured requiring hospitalization, the answer is yes. If you had a serious fight with your man and your feelings were hurt more than you were physically, you are reacting on emotion and just want to hurt him by getting the police involved. You would be better off to seek professional counseling due to the simple fact that 911 does not address the problem.  Law enforcement punishes individuals which does not solve the underlying problem.  I would recommend pausing for a moment to consider the potential consequences.

Any man with half a brain will be very cautious to date you upon hearing how you handled your previous relationship by calling 911 on your man. Calling 911 leaves no room for error in a future relationship.  It’s not because you did not have a legitimate reason, but because you have chosen to call a 3^rd party into your relationship to solve your problems. This 3^rd party cares the least about your family.  Locking people away does not solve problems.  People in jail typically spend their time sleeping which is why most return to jail for the same crimes committed in their past, not a good image for the Man of Your Dreams.

The police couldn’t care less about you and your feelings. If you’re not careful both of you could end up going to jail, a double K.O. You’d be dealing with a lot more unnecessary drama, fines, fees, loss of time and energy, and still have the same problem. These additional frustrations will not help your relationship heal and improve, but do exactly the opposite.

For most men, one call to the police will rip away any chance of a future relationship with you. It is an event he will never forget. For men of some races who have been historically and unjustly treated by the police, your actions will be considered the eighth of the seven deadly sins. As a result he will never ever truly trust you or your friends who may have had a hand in influencing you.  Even if he apologizes and takes responsibility for his actions, rebuilding his trust in you will be like climbing uphill with a sack of bricks on your back.  If you have any love for this man or have children with him, think very long and hard about the consequences.

Sexual Desire

Your man may desire to sleep with you due to nostalgia, but one flashback of your calling 911 will quickly blot out fond memories. Even if he does sleep with you again, it will more than likely never be with the same passion and intensity. Being confronted and arrested by the police is a very traumatic experience. Some men may sleep with you again intending vengeful payback. For the most part that image and experience of you calling 911 and involving the police will always playback over and over again in your man’s mind.

Calling 911 is as bad as a woman cheating on a man with his bestfriend since kindergarten. Both will always be stored in his internal memory banks forever.

Going To Jail

More than likely the results of a 911 call will land your man or even both of you in jail, a double K.O.  Police tend to arrest first, and then ask questions later. The consequences of your man going to jail will create a loss of income if he is employed. It could potentially jeopardize his employment. Jail is a very rough place where he could be hurt, raped or killed. There is an old saying, “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.”

Only true love for another could create this level of scorn. Rest assured one evil act is not solved by a corresponding act of evil. You may get temporary satisfaction, but if you do not truly understand what mistakes created the problems in the relationship and take responsibility for your 50 percent contribution, you will be setting yourself up for a repeat in the same or next relationship.

Creating a Record

Going to jail creates a record for your man or child’s father. Obtaining a record ultimately means he could lose his job. Chances for advancement and future employment opportunities, no matter how qualified he is, will be greatly diminished. In a very competitive job market he will become less marketable, which means he will make less money. In the long run, he will have less money to contribute to future and existing children. You really have to ask yourself if this is what you truly intend to happen when you called 911. Remember that this could happen to both of you.  It depends on the police officers on duty.  Did you really intend that a mistake or two affect the rest of his life?

Being Honest with Yourself

Did you even take time to consider how your actions might have contributed to the results? Were you dishonest? Were you cheating? Men are not made of steel. Believe it or not they have emotions that can sometimes get out of whack just like a woman’s.  Are you perfect and have never made any mistakes that could have potentially contributed to the outcome?  We understand that there are two sides to every story. Often one or both sides is misunderstood. There are some women saints out there right along with you and Mother Teresa. But Mother Teresa was a virgin. She never saw dick, and dick can make you do some crazy things.

Try to Find Solutions Before You Call the Police

Do you truly understand what love is, not TV or movie love?  Love endures through good and bad times. Love is patient and suffers through trials and tribulations. Love understands that relationships are not always going to be perfect like a Disney Movie. How you choose to solve your relationship problems is the key to its longevity and future success or demise. Calling 911 should be saved as an absolute last resort. At some point bringing additional third parties such as family and friends into your relationship can involve more people, more drama, and fewer positive solutions.  A family member’s emotions and involvement can easily raise the bar from an intense situation to a very intense situation. It is imperative that you check your own emotional state and seek proper help and guidance from an unemotional an unbiased source. How to Get the Man of Your Dreams offers coaching.

 Recognize the Signs Early On

Do not procrastinate when you see problems brewing. Address all problems immediately. Ignoring problems in a relationship is a recipe for a disaster. If you ask your man 3 times to complete a task, he agrees and then you later see no improvement, this is a clear sign of a communication problem. Seek help immediately from a fair and unbiased source. Recognize the signs of a troubled relationship or communications failure. Taking immediate action will help to prevent future blow ups in your relationship. In fact put it on your calendar as one of the things you should do every four months like changing your oil, a relationship check up!

It is most important that when considering whether you should call 911 on your man, to think of  the consequences of just one phone call. In an attempt to hurt the other person you very well could hurt yourself, children, and family members as well as him. Is this what you intend to accomplish? Calling 911 is a major decision. A major decision should never be made when you are upset or angry.