Hell yes! Believe it or not, the woman is in control and it is she who dictates the energy. It’s unbelievable, but it is true! Understanding this fact and learning how to use it to your advantage can dramatically improve your sex life and your partner’s sexual enjoyment. A woman can make a man feel like King Kong or ding dong depending on what she says to him in bed. Why do you think men go to strip clubs? Strippers have perfected the art of telling men what they want to hear. Want to learn all the secrets? (Why Men Love Strippers… And How You Can Use This Information to Improve Your Relationship)
Why Men Love It
Ladies, you have to remember that we are men and we have a competitive nature. A woman talking trash to us in bed is like a dude talking trash to us on the basketball court or football field. It’s like one guy saying to another guy, “You’re not good enough.” What is a man’s natural reaction? To intensify our effort. Competitors know that this is when the game gets really good—when the s### talking starts. We love it!
Trash Talking 101
The man wants to own the woman and most men think that to own you they must sexually conquer you. (The wise man knows that you never sexually conquer a woman; you only conquer her mind). This is how you make him feel: like he is the man. By what you say, you give him confidence that he is accomplishing his goal to conquer and please you. He is your musician and you are the orchestra conductor.
Your words encourage him to rise to your expectations. To drive his passion and arouse his aggression, use names and phrases like Big Daddy, Papi, and “give it to me.” Whisper and breathe heavily into his ear saying, “Big Daddy,” and watch how such a simple move can motivate and incite him.
A woman talking trash to us in the bed is like music to our ears. We’re saying to ourselves “How dare you…really, really? Hell no…” I know she is not talking trash to me but we love to hear it. It is the best insult you can give a guy. Prompt him with, “Hey buddy you want to speed that up?” Or encourage him to “get in that vagina baby, get it all”—this is what a man wants to hear. Persuade him to give you his all with, “Oh yeah, get it all, get every last drop! It’s all yours baby.” At this point when a man hears you encouraging him with these words he is going to give you his best effort. You just hit the proverbial lotto—cha-ching!!!
In addition to your words, your actions can magnify his energy as well. If you want him to get extra aggressive, ditch the missionary position. Turn around in doggy style and tell him to grab your hair and spank your butt. He may be scared at first, wondering, “Is this my girl? Who is this?” But after a few minutes he will wonder, “Where have you been all of my life?!” He may get so excited trying to get leverage that he may grab you lightly by your throat and get too rough. A gentle “hey baby” will slow him down. Conversely, if you say “give it to me,” it is going to speed him up because he will know you’re okay and will not want to fail you. If you turn around and look at him while saying it in a confident tone, ooh wee, you just turned up the fire! It is the same thing as saying, “Baby please don’t stop!”—we love to hear this!
Remember, you are the one conducting the whole symphony and directing the flow of energy by your choice of words and the tone of your voice.
What To Expect
Can I ask a question? Who in the heck is Papi? Please somebody tell me who Papi is? I have wanted to meet Papi for years. Men love to hear women talk about Papi, their momma, daddy, deities, and God. Because we know that once you start calling on the ancestors we are hitting that sweet spot and how sweet it is. It’s like hitting a perfect C on a piano. Piiiinngg!! A man’s whole goal is to make music and you are his instrument. A man’s stroke inside of a woman is like playing an instrument to his ears and a man that is in tune will stroke you like he is playing a harp, to make perfect notes from the sounds that come from within you.
It’s amazing how a few words said in the right way can make all the difference in the world. It will keep him coming back to you over and over again because it will be not only a beautiful, passionate lovemaking session, but it will also be fun. You eliminate any chance of boredom when you participate in sex with your voice, body, and eye contact. When a woman actively participates, rather than being quiet and motionless, and uses words that appeal to his competitiveness, it increases his inner desire to do his best. He is going to say to himself, “Oh, she wants me and she really loves how I make her feel.” For a man who is in tune with his woman, his greatest concern during sexual intercourse is pleasing her. If he is pleasing you, then he is pleasing himself. This is a man we describe as having class and maturity in the bedroom. (Sweet 16 Signs That Your Man Has Class and Maturity)
So your lesson for the day is to practice saying, “Give it to me Big Daddy.” Know that you control the outcome you desire with a man during sexual intercourse. The woman, who says nothing, does nothing, and just lays there expecting the man to do all the work misunderstands her power within. Remember you are the conductor of the orchestra telling your musician how to play his notes.