Warning: Do not read this article if you do not want to know how men truly think and feel.
There are some women who are so beautiful on the outside but so ugly on the inside that it actually makes them unattractive. (The Super Nice Woman vs. the Super Ugly Spirited Woman) They believe that the man of their dreams (MOYD) should cater to them but do not believe they should have to cater to the MOYD. (The Top Ten Mistakes Women Make in Finding and Keeping the Men of Their Dreams) That just kills the love song. They do not feel they should cook, clean or do anything for their man. (How to Take Care of the Man You’re Dating 101) For instance, when the MOYD finishes making love, he wants something to eat, and we are not speaking of oodles of noodles. He wants a meal. But she cannot cook. Her sole basis for existence is her vain beauty.
Ugly ways kill beauty. It matters not how much makeup she puts on her face. It cannot hide the ugliness on the inside.
Here are the 9 reasons men cheat on beautiful women:
1. She is ugly on the inside.
Even the ugly or not-so-attractive woman can be the most beautiful woman, because true beauty comes from within. This is one reason why so many men go back and forth from the beautiful woman to the woman who is not as attractive but who can take care of him and love him the way he needs to and should be loved. It is so confusing. The man is saying to himself, “Suzy has the figure I want, the pretty long hair, beautiful skin and model-like features, but her attitude sucks and she does not want to do anything for me and yet expects everything from me.”
2. The sex is not good.
Being beautiful does not make you good in bed. You have to be attentive and still have all the bells and whistles of any other woman. (All Vaginas Are Not Sexually Pleasing to the Male Species as Assumed)
I am sure you have seen what we often refer to as mismatched couples, consisting of one who is gorgeous and another who is not so attractive. Everybody wants to know: Why and how did this happen? Well, if you had enough courage to stop them and ask why, she would say, for starters, “He makes real, passionate love to me, which makes him beautiful in my eyes.”
3. She has very few skills besides looking beautiful.
Beautiful women are often not completely functional human beings. If you cannot cook, clean or handle core responsibilities by the age of 25, you have no skills to keep the MOYD. Beauty may have caught the MOYD’s attention and gotten your foot in the door, but it will not create a long-lasting, happy relationship.
You have to know how and have the willingness to take care of your man if your plan is to keep him interested in you. It’s the little things that count. If he opens your car door, do you reach over the seat and at least try to open his door? Or are you the type that only wants to spend his hard-earned money but not your own? This selfish attitude is not attractive to any decent man.
It is the little things that beautiful women lack that cement a relationship. Beautiful women are so used to people telling them they are beautiful and catering to them that it has handicapped them from developing the skills necessary to take care of the MOYD. When you earn your keep, you develop skills. When everything is handed to you, you develop no skills and become very insecure. (Dating the Insecure Woman vs. the Secure Woman? Part 1) Beautiful women often neglect the little things, like a back rub, head massage, noticing the dirt under her man’s fingernails or acknowledging that he works tirelessly for her. This is death to a relationship and true love.
Many women who are pretty seek attention constantly and are obsessed with themselves. It’s like a disease. It is interesting to meet so many beautiful women looking hot and sexy out at the club, who have boyfriends or are in a relationship. It’s like, “What are you doing here?” (A topic to be discussed later.) You can only be good at what you practice and focus your energy towards.
A beautiful woman may look good in the mirror but in the end she will be lonely, have a man and still be lonely, or have the MOYD, who is not in love with her but only in love with the way she looks–the proverbial trophy wife. You cannot love a trophy. It is a thing. This is a tragedy for this woman, and he will eventually cheat when he later realizes that true love and happiness is not necessarily in the way she looks.
This is why many of these women have and cling to their dogs, cats, etc. They are lonely. If she had the MOYD to cling to, she would not cling to her dog until it became an ingrained habit. But she treats her dog better than the MOYD or potential MOYD. A dog is the only one who will love her vanity unconditionally: “Come on Charlie, let’s go for a walk, only you understand me.” Men are not dogs, contrary to popular belief. We have feelings and needs just as you do. Do you know what those are? Food and sex are only for starters. Our behavior is very predictable when the woman has substance. (Women have the Power to Help Men Become Better)
What good does it do a man to have a pretty woman but not love? What good does it do a man to have a pretty woman who does not truly care how he feels? Because she really does not care how he feels, nor does she have the skill set to even ask the basic questions. Who he is and how he truly feels often go unnoticed. Yes, in the end it will be her and the dog walking down the street by themselves. They are meant for each other. (Why Might a Woman Give Her Dog More Love Than She Gives The Man of Her Dreams?)
This is why so many beautiful women, such as Halle Berry, are so insecure, because deep down, they know that all they have is physical beauty and in the end, physical beauty will attract the MOYD but will never keep him interested long-term. (Understanding Why You are Beautiful and Still Single) He will eventually gravitate to the woman who has his best interests at heart–true love and beauty. She has that simple smile and spirit that warms a room full of people. Her light comes from within. So, ladies, if you see a really beautiful woman, there is no need to be jealous. She has her issues and insecurities just as you do, and often she is more fearful of you, because if you are truly a beautiful person inside, you have the real glue that holds a relationship and family together. (Learning the Art of Forgiveness is a Must to a Successful Relationship)
4. She is arrogant.
Arrogance is when a woman thinks she can take another woman’s man because she is entitled to him because of her beauty. It’s an ugly act and ugly thought. Trust that she is not entitled and that her beauty will fade as quickly as the seasons come and go. Be patient and forgiving. Be the image of what you desire from the MOYD so that you can attract that which you want to come into your life. In the end it will be you that is truly loved and respected. Those who take the high road rule over those on the lower road.
5. She is vain.
She may know in her heart the right thing to do, but her foundation–built on the principles of beauty–will not allow her to do the right thing for the MOYD. Or she does not know what the right thing is and becomes stuck in her own web. Remember, like a laser, you can only be a sharp as what you focus your energy on. If you are good at eating out but not good at cooking, it should be no surprise that your man does not come running home to you. Hmmm, you wonder. Why? Because he is down at Sally’s house around the corner, eating a full, four-course meal, with HER as the dessert. Ladies, please remember that just because you have a house, you don’t necessarily have a home. It’s your attitude and the right spirit that makes a house a home instead of an empty box. If you get up in the morning and don’t kiss and hug your man but run to the mirror and spend an hour putting on makeup getting ready to go out, you love the attention of the world more than you love and appreciate your man. You have missed what is most important. It’s the little things that matter the most. The infrastructure a beautiful woman has built for herself does not allow her to do the right thing or see the error of her ways.
6. After he has captured the prize, he finds that the cons outweigh the pros. (Dating 102: Weighing The Pros and Cons)
He starts asking himself real questions like: What do you bring to the table? How are you an asset to his life? Once he adds up the pros and cons and you receive a three out of 10 score, with seven out of 10 being the minimum for passing, he soon realizes he has been conned by your beauty and finds himself the victim of makeup; sexy, alluring dresses and fake hair, with no real substance behind them. Like the law of gravity, he will eventually head toward the woman who has his best interests at heart. This is what we witness everyday, especially among celebrity couples. They have all the money, exterior beauty and talent, so what’s the problem? It is that which you cannot see until the nasty divorce hits the airwaves. Then you say, uh-oh!
7. She has a self-centered attitude, like her boo-boo does not stink.
If you only care about yourself, do not be surprised when you are single at 35 or 40 years old and you go from man to man like a robot. The key ingredients women often miss are being unselfish, thrifty and giving. (Understanding Are You “Wifey” Material?) If you have been selfish most of your adult life, and everything has been handed to you because of your beauty, it has rotted the very foundation on which you stand. This is comparable to a professional male athlete who attracts and sleeps with many women because of his status and not because he has any romantic skills. Why would he develop a skill he never had to use?
A beautiful woman ends up p#!aed off like a spoiled brat when things do not go her way. Her world is turned upside down because it has rubbed against the grain of her foundation. She does not know what it means to not get her way. She becomes cold and bitter towards all men, but not her own choices.
8. Her beauty is an empty shell with no real substance behind it.
If you spend all of your time getting your hair and nails done, shopping at the mall, watching “Basketball Wives” and other garbage that provides images of women disrespecting men, and you never spend any time investing in yourself besides the weekly visit to your local church, then how do you expect to become a better person in this constantly-changing world, when your focus is elsewhere?
Do you feel you know everything and the MOYD knows nothing? True beauty comes from within and cannot ever be purchased, only developed over time and with the right attitude. You have to have a coachable spirit. Stop spending the majority of your time shopping; instead, spend it investing in becoming a better you. With this investment of your time, the nine reasons why men cheat on beautiful women will be dramatically reduced.
A wise man will begin to realize there is a reason why you are 30 or 40 years old, successful, beautiful and still single, but we hope to help you realize any errant thinking and make the necessary adjustments before he ever has the chance. Good men are hard to find, and finding the MOYD is even harder. So you must prepare yourself for the man you want to receive now, so you can attract and keep the MOYD.