There is nothing worse in this world than a mother who uses the children against the father in a relationship. If you are going to rank sins against men in this world, this act would be right up there with the biblical Eve’s sin committed in the Garden of Eden against God. It would be number one in 99.9% of men who are committed father’s and those who desire to be fathers, representing a quality most women desire. In fact, this is a quality you would hope that the future man of your dreams possesses. A man with this quality is a man that will more than likely do his best to take care of you and your children.
Logic of Man
Following the logical thinking of men, a woman using the kids like pawns on a chess board will be seen as the most selfish and worse of all actions a woman can commit against a man. It truly exposes here unbalanced emotional state of mind. Any potential future man of her dreams will clearly see it as a representation of what she could potentially do to him if her behavior goes uncorrected. Her actions are not in the best interest of the children, but are purely selfish with malicious intent. The consequences are no man in his right mind will truly desire to be with a woman with this previous track record beyond a sexual encounter and eventually your intentional denial of the baby’s father time can take a toll on your new found relationship. The new man of your dreams may eventually become concerned an irritated by your behavior especially if found to be later without probable cause.
Legislation should be enacted
Stiff laws should be enacted against women who abuse their motherly privileges. It truly should be a crime for women who use the system to steal time from a father and their children’s right to spend time with them. It is a crime against nature and against all women who previously fought for equal rights. Their behavior discourages, good men who are responsible loving fathers , who want to spend time and be in their children’s lives.
Overbearing Power and Authority
It really makes a man wonder and revaluate in his mind whether a woman having too much power an authority over a man goes against the laws of nature itself? It seems that every time a woman is put in a position of power and authority, police, detention officer, district attorney, judge, CEO, etc., she abuses the privileges granted by being more cruel than her male counterparts in the same positions. Now that women have gotten a taste of the power, many abuse it an act no better than the slave mentalities of their predecessors who originally denied them equals rights. Is it that hard for people to be honest, reasonable and fair? Is it that hard to treat a man like you would want to be treated yourself? What if he had the power to deny you the rights to see your children was more in his favor? How would you feel?
It takes two people to make a child and nature intended for the same two people to raise them. Just because some authority figure tells you can jump off a two story building and survive, would you do it? Please use the same common sense in raising your children or cast them into perpetual confusion. We are assuming that you would not jump off a ten story building without a parachute because the results would really hurt to say the least. If you knew denying your children time to be with their father would result in hurting them, would you do it? A mother can never give a child the love and protection that a father provides a child, whether she understands his role or not. If is often the little things that father does in the middle of the night, like making sure the house is safe and secure, kids are warm and tucked in their beds that often go unnoticed. Daddy comes with a big kiss in the middle of the night, that often goes unnoticed again because everybody is asleep. Great father’s are always alert even while they sleep, always watching and protecting. When there is a security issue, it is he who will be the first line of defense and the first to answer the call. He will give his life to defend his family. In reverse a father can never give a child the love that a mother provides because he is a man, so those who are parents cut the crap and put the well being of the children first.
Absentee Father or Father Figure
It has been noted that women who grew up without a father/father figure or even with a good relationship with their father’s lack the common knowledge and trust to understand just how important a father’s role is in creating balanced thinking within themselves. Trusting a man to lead the relationship is often difficult because these women have never seen positive stable examples. Many have missed the experience of love and protection that a father normally provides only to be replaced by the selfish desires of the mother for the attention of men. The errors of the mother are now past to the daughter who often becomes innocent prey to unsuspecting men. Consequently in on fatal swoop, the mother has now destroyed the child’s foundation of trust that a loving father could have provided as well as the trust and protection that should have been provided by the mother. Where does it leave the child? All are a result of the mother’s failure to understand the nature of a number of men in our modern day society. A father would be able to better prepare his daughter for the hidden traps placed by deceiving men. He would recognize and point out their tricks. In fact, jus the fact that the man you are dating knows you have a caring and loving father will help protect you from the games men play. A man that is not trying to do you right will not want to meet your father. “I’ll pass on this one”. A father is child’s ultimate protector and source of strength.
Ladies no matter how much you praise yourselves, you will ultimately be held responsible for the outcome of your decisions good or bad. I know you believe it’s all his fault and your perfect and right. Please consider, that as long as you are getting d***, you will never be perfect. Due to the fact that children’s lives and general well being are at risk, you must reach beyond being honest with yourself and be the bigger person and accept responsibility for your part in the relationship’s failure. No matter how you slice the pie, it takes two people to argue, fuss, fight and even break up. No matter how much you think he is wrong and you are right, that is your opinion. Be the bigger person and leave the kids out of the equation looking out for their well being first.
The main problem in our modern society is that women no longer desire to follow and allow men to lead. This point in itself creates a major conflict and role confusion. Someone has to be head of the family; even the IRS knows there cannot be two heads of household. This is where your spiritual beliefs may come in and should be clarified preferably before you start the relationship.
The potential attorney and court costs and time spent running back and forth to the courthouse will eventually way heavily on yourself and any new relationship. You will no longer be able to hide behind your side the story only. All your dirty laundry will be exposed and doc**ented in court for anybody to see. Years later your children will be able to go pull the court files if they desire to really know what happen. The saddest part of all is that some father’s do not have the resources to fight for their rights. What’ even worse for those dads who do have the means to protect their interest is now the kids have to suffer through bitter fighting of two parents they love? Why? Because one parent is being unreasonable and feels that he or she is the supreme authority over the children they both created. The destruction lies in the fact that neither realizes that are both imperfect, and many fail to see the path of destruction that lies on the road ahead. All the money you are about spend on attorneys and court costs could have been easily saved for the children’s future education. The court’s tend to favor mother’s over father’s, and women who use children because they have the upper hand are actually abusing and stealing valuable time from the children and their father.
If you fit the despicable mom description and find yourself guilty of many of the acts listed, realize your errors, confess your sins, get sprinkled by holy water, go steal some from the nearest Catholic Church, in fact bring a cup, and change your attitude for you and your children’s sake. Call your baby dad and apologize and ask his forgiveness. Be the bigger person. You will be surprised that most of the times all men really want to hear is a sincere apology. Next, go kiss your kids and apologize and explain the mistakes you made and ask their forgiveness. Most importantly remember, it’s never too late to make changes to improve your life and those around you. Remember life is short, value each moment and respect each other’s time to be with the children.